Saturday, August 4, 2012

Loving it

So as promised, I told you that I would start talking about being a stay at home mom more. Not that dealing with sick dogs and babies doesn't qualify, but its time to move on to other things. Incidentally, we all caught the cold this week from our son. And he has an ear infection. But we are all healing and dealing with it. I have to admit that staying home and taking care of him is so rewarding. I couldn't imagine being anywhere else.

Anyway, when we first moved here and I had just quit my job, we were living with his parents while we built our house. So being a stay at home mom really didn't sink in until we moved out and were finally on our own. Our son was 6 months old then and I had to figure out how to take care of this baby and a house and all that comes with that pretty quickly. After the unpacking, I started thinking how can I make this fun? I certainly didn't want to get swallowed up by daily chores and daily baby needs that I lost myself or my sense of identity. I mean, if I surrendered to every mess, every piece of item left out of place, every little re-organizing task and projects around the house, I would be consumed by this house. I would definitely be lost and feeling like I want to be at work and then feeling guilt by that for not wanting to be home with my kid. I am sure many of you moms out there struggle with this concept. Some woman working feel bad they aren't at home or can't be at home and women at home feel like "I wish I was still working at a job I was really good at" and then feeling guilty that we are not just over joyed to be here with the little ones. I know some women have a much better grasp on this than me, but for me, I didn't want to feel guilty. So I decided to treat this stay at home job as a job. At least the house chores part of it. So this how I have managed to love what I do and not feel like I should be anywhere else.

Monday:
Laundry gets done and put away (every week I try to do all sheets and bedding as well)

Tuesday:
vaccuum

Wednesday:
Dust

Thursday:
Clean bathrooms

Friday:
Deep clean kitchen
During the summer, our dogs shed a lot, so I vaccuum again

Daily chores:
Load and/or unload the dishwasher with the dishes from the night before
Make beds
Keep kitchen and living room picked up
Pick up around office, bedrooms, just the house in general

Thats it. Every two weeks, I do extra's that I see is needed. I mop every couple weeks. My HUGE pet peeve is sticky (yes I know I have kids and I can't help the sticky) but the reason I only need to mop every couple weeks, is because I am constantly on my hands and knees cleaning up dropped food, spills, splatters and any sticky spot I see daily. I clean our white stone fire place every couple weeks because my little 17 month old loves to walk on it and so it gets dirty...and its white! Why didn't I think more about that when I was choosing colors?

As for errands, those are done on an as needed, hows the kid today basis. If we are having an off day, then the grocery store can wait. I NEVER subject my kid to errands if he is not happy. I only do errands after breakfast or lunch, when he is well fed, well rested and happy. Believe me, if you take this approach, you will never be THAT mom who is in the store with a screaming baby. We try to do errands a couple days a week. More on my baby rules and how I manage to have a happy baby nearly 24/7 in the next blog.

I do have my house rules for me.
1. I stop working when my husband gets home, or if he gets home early, I stop working after dinner. I usually start dinner while my son eats his dinner and we eat after he goes to bed or while he plays in the living room. So, we rinse our dishes from dinner and the pots and pans and leave them. I know for some people, this is unthinkable, but I can deal with dishes in my sink over night mainly because I feel like quality time with my family is more important than the dishes when I know I can get to them first thing the next morning. And it HAS to be first thing or it does drive me crazy.

2. No chores after our son goes to bed. I do pick up toys in our living room but thats just so we don't trip as we are walking through at night.

3. No chores on weekends, with the exception of dishes since I do love to cook. Here's the thing: laundry piles up, dust collects, dog's shed, clothes aren't put away, my husband is notorious for leaving socks and shoes everywhere, and this, plus many other things, can and WILL get dealt with on Monday. The weekend, I am off. Just like with my old job (I worked 4-10's, meaning I would work 7a-6p Mon-Thurs when I did work) I quit when its quitting time and I start the next morning when its go time.

4. I clean and do each chore usually when my son goes down for his nap. He helps me with laundry and making the beds sometimes, but everything else, when he sleeps, I clean. When he is awake, he has my full attention. Which is why, when he eats, the kitchen gets picked up and dinners and lunches get made.

By doing this and making a schedule for me, I have been able to not feel like I work a job that is ongoing 24/7. I mean, I already have a little boy who needs me from about 7:30a-7:30p and right there, thats a 12 hour day. It may not always be difficult since he is so happy and such an amazing kid, but we do have off days, where he's not happy with just doing this or that, so I have to get creative and find new things for him to do. When we have days like that, 12 hours seems like 100 hours and I am ready for bed at 8. :) So by allowing my house chores and duties to stop at 7p and on weekends, I can relax knowing that my house is always well taken care of, just in due time. In the meantime, I spend time with my son out and about doing fun things and spend quality time with my husband after our little pumpkin is tucked away at night. Everyone in the house is taken care of, has time for them and I have time for me once the chores are done and he's taking an extra long nap.

On weekends, it gives me a chance to let daddy and son bond while I got get a pedicure or a massage or, hey just go in the other room and watch food network or blog without a cute little kid trying to type with me or change my channel to Mickey Mouse. And the best part, is I never feel guilty that I should be cleaning or doing something productive because I know I already planned to get everything done...starting Monday.

I close this entry by saying that I love where I am today. I love everything about staying home and I love my house (my messy on weekends, but really clean during the week house). I am not a perfectionist and I am no Martha Stewart, but I am a mom who wants and needs a clean house in moderation. I am a full time, fully committed mom when my son is awake and as a result, our son is happy, adapts well to things and is overall very well adjusted. I take pride in this because I feel like I try really hard to give him attention and independence at our own pace and he doesn't just get independence because I'm doing a chore, its because I let him go off and explore and discover and play by himself while I watch from a far. I hope that for any moms out there who feel overwhelmed, can learn to take each chore and each day, one chore and day at a time. Learn to relax, really take time for yourself because you have enough going on and you are already stretched way too thin. So regroup and enjoy the long naps by reading a book for you and enjoy weekends by actually taking them off and doing something fun.

**Quick side note: I will be having another baby in November. And these two kids may not nap at the same time. So for now, take everything I wrote into consideration that I have one kid...who still naps. As I learn how to adjust with kid #2, I will update my methods and schedule!

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Life

I am aware of the fact that it has been awhile since I have written. At least longer than I wanted it to go. Its funny how my last blog entry talked about all the daily stresses in our life and yet here I am again with more. Its crazy, but it seems that life just keeps piling it on. My son finally got rid of his virus that was causing spots just to catch a cold this weekend.

A note on how he caught that...we went to the lake this weekend and stayed at my husbands parents lake house where we invited some friends. Some new and some old. We had a great time, but one of my husbands long time friends brought his wife and 2 kids, ages 4 and 1. I guess once they got out there they started sneezing and coughing and getting sick. I totally understand that parents can't control when their children get sick, but they can control how they let them interact with other kids. My kid was playing with them and I had him wash his hands alot but on Sunday, he was playing with the 4 year old while his mom was feeding the 1 year old and the kid started coughing in my kids face. I asked politely if he could cover his mouth when he coughed, but he continued to cough without doing so. Mom knew what was going on, because she was only a few feet away, but she didn't say anything. My son had a runny nose yesterday and woke up with a fever today. But seriously, if my kid were getting sick, I would tell the other mom, I would try to keep my kid from making contact with the other kids and I would disinfect everything because I would feel bad if my kid passed it along. But I digress...

Then our stupid lab got hurt again! She already had stitches for a gash she got outside that were removed a month ago. Then Sunday night, she was outside, playing fetch and came in with another gash. We have no idea how that happened! We were watching the whole time and yet again, she got another tear. We took her to the vet yesterday and she had to get stitches again. And this time the tear is on her hind leg, so the poor thing has to wear a cone. Its really sad but kind of funny to watch her try to maneuver around our house. She bumps everything and she was already a clumsy dog to start.

But, aside from all the hard things in life, we still get blessings and they are everywhere. I am now 25 weeks along in this pregnancy and loving every minute. She is so active and kicks all the time. My husband was able to take off today when he found out our son was sick and stayed home to be with him all day. What a sweet and doting husband! It also gave me time today to go and find things for our little girls room. I found a beautiful bird that has the perfect colors to match her room theme and I finialized the bedding today online and will be ordering it soon too. I also decided on doing chevron on one wall of yellow and blue, while the rest of the room will be yellow. I will have accents of pink throughout the room. After all she is a girl! I promise pictures once things start going up. And once we finalize our sons room, I will post pics as well.

I will say that even though we have things that happen to us that get in the way of a smooth life, I continue to see how blessed we really are. Our baby is healthy, our son is still in high spirits even though he is sick, I have a husband who wants to be involved at home and be here for me and we have a beautiful home that I am proud to say I decorated and custom designed! I do try to keep it clean on a daily basis but then there are sick days where I can't seem to get anything done because I have this cute kid hanging on me. There is nothing that can't wait when you have something that adorable that wants you. The way I look at it, is someday he will be in college and he won't want a hug when he is sick, so the laundry can wait, the beds can get made tomorrow, the vaccuuming can get done another day.

So to everyone reading this, I promise I will talk more about being a stay at home mom and tips and tricks I have discovered. For now though, I have a cone head dog that needs attention, a sick son who needs loving and a husband who needs some thanking since he did stay home to help today. Until next time...

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Daily Stress

Its funny how life is full of daily stresses. It seems we have had our fair share of them the last few weeks too. My husband and I have managed to stay on top of it though and get through it together as a team. We like to refer to ourselves as "Team Ray". Team Ray has certainly been challeneged with our lab having to get stitches, our son got diagnosed with erythema multiform, our house got invaded by ants, our german shepherd had a hip issue and then we had a car not start yesterday morning. All in all, we have managed to deal with what's been given us and taken it all with a grain of salt. Sort of...everything except our kid getting this virus. Its really not that big of deal...let me explain...

He woke up one morning with a couple bumps on his knees. They looked like little bug bites or mosquito bites all clustered together. They didn't seem to bother him though. He didn't touch them or notice them. Then as the day wore on, I started noticing those bumps showing up on his ankles and arms, then wrists. So I called the Dr. They said it sounded like an allergic reaction and just to watch him, make sure his breathing was consistant and so forth. Then after lunch, I was on my way home and he started getting fussy in the back seat. It was nap time, so no big deal. Then he started crying more and I thought, he's just tired. But when I got home and went in the backseat to get him, his face had these bumps all over him. I freaked out, called the dr on my way to the dr and they said to stop and get some benadryl, which I did and as soon as he took it, he looked better and he passed out. On to the Dr I went and when I got there they said it sounded like erythema multiform and it was a virus that was not contageous but caused bumps on him. There is also no medication to treat it except the benadryl to make the bumps go away and tylenol if he got a fever as a result. They said it could last up to a week. We were at a week as of yesterday and he only gets a couple bumps here and there and they usually go away on there own. All is good now in the Ray household. So to all the mommy's out there whose kid has been or gets diagnosed with this virus, its worse than it sounds and it will go away...eventually.

Anyway, aside from these stresses alot of fun things are happening in this house too! We are getting ready to start working on the nursery once we get the odds and ends and the bed out! And I have a TON of ideas...all of course, thanks to Pinterest. I absolutely cannot wait to get started. Then we are moving our son to a big boy bed, hopefully this weekend, and then doing some new things in his room. I want to make it a little boys room instead of a baby's room. I am both sad and excited all at once. My little dude is growing up, and I am so proud of him, but I still love his baby room and am a little sad we are transitioning. So first things first, getting the rocking chair and table out of his room.  I think I am going to move two cute little rocking chairs in his room and put them next to some bookshelves which I am going to put on the wall so he can have a reading nook! Pictures will come soon. As for baby #2's room, I think the theme is going to be love birds. So I am going to make some felt birds to make a mobile and frame some birds in shadow boxes to match her color scheme! Lots and lots of pictures to come. Of course there will be some trial and error too I am sure, but I will learn how to sew those felt love birds if its the last thing I do...and it very well might be. I might be able to cook, decorate, organize and be efficient...but sewing is not something I am good at.

I will post pictures as I complete these tasks, but on my end note, I wanted to share a recipe that I discovered and I am so excited about. I cannot eat cream cheese because it makes my stomach hurt for whatever reason, but cheesecake is my absolute most favorite dessert. So I found a recipe that does not use cream cheese but greek yogurt. I modified it some and wish to share.

Greek yogurt Cheesecake

1 16 oz container of greek yogurt (I used organic)
1 package of jell-o cheesecake flavor
3/4 cup of milk
4 tablespoons melted butter
5-6 graham crackers

Crush the graham crackers in a zip lock bag, pour the melted butter in and mix well. Then press them into 12 cupcake liners or a pie dish. Set aside. Then mix the yogurt and cheesecake mix together until incorporated well, then add the milk. Pour into the cupcake liners or the pie dish and let it set up in the fridge for a couple of hours. I topped mine with strawberries, but you could use any fruit you wanted or eat it plain! It was delicious and so simple! I hope everyone who tries it enjoys it.

And on a side note to show how incredibly blessed our family is, the lab's stitches were removed and she is fine, the ants were taken care of and were only here for a few days and have been gone for over a week now, our son is just fine, our german shepherd went to the vet, got some medicine and pills and is walking a lot better now, and the car that wouldn't start just had a battery issue, nothing else. Thank you Lord for taking care of this family even if the stress seems to be too much at times. Until next time...

Friday, July 13, 2012

Why I am here

We all look for hobbies and things to do to occupy our time and fill some of the spare time we have. For me, I decided that it might be fun to blog. Why not, I mean I have lots of things to say, just ask my family. Some things I say have great wisdom and value behind it, some things I say are quite funny and then there are the things that I say that mean absolutely nothing, but hey, I have always been a talker and a thinker. So I decided to talk and get whats on my mind out here on a blog.

Some background information: I am a west Texas born and raised girl. I grew up there, went to college there and met my wonderful husband of 3 years now there. I graduated with a criminal justice degree and became a probation officer. I did that for 3 1/2 years until I became pregnant with our first child. My husband and I were both working in the panhandle and decided to apply for jobs in Georgetown, TX, near Austin. We both got the jobs and off we went into the unknown together to a new town, a new home and a new life. We loved everything about Georgetown. We built our first house, got pregnant there and really felt like we belonged. Then things changed for us again and we decided to head to the Dallas area where we would, once again, start over in a new life. I was 7 months pregnant when we moved. Yes, you read that right. 7 months! I did not go back to work after the move, since we always knew that I was going to stay home with our kids and he opened his own practice as a defense attorney. We built another home in Frisco, had a baby on Valentines day and started a new life here. So far, I cannot complain and I love my new job.

So lets start out and explain why this blog is called what it is: A Stay at Home Mom's Chronicle. I loved working. I loved that I graduated with a criminal justice degree and I loved being a probation officer (at times). I love the workforce in general and I loved having a caseload and being able to work with the people I did on a daily basis. There were times when it was hard and I didn't want to go to work, but no doubt I loved my job, I loved my coworkers and I did love my bosses. But I always wanted something more. Ever since I was a little girl, I thought about being a mommy more than I did about having a career. This was no ones fault or blame, its just how I felt. My mom did not raise me to be a homemaker nor did she push having a career. She worked all my childhood and I went to daycares and had babysitters, but for me, I wanted to be home with my kids. It was a hard decision to make at first. I mean I had only been in the work force for 3 1/2 years since graduating college. And think about it...my husband and I want more than 2 kids, so by the time they are all in school, and I think about going back to work, I will have been out of the workforce for roughly 14 years! Do you know how many promotions, jobs and other accomplishments everyone else who started working the same age I did will have by then? Seriously? I will be 41! My goodness, ok moving on....thats really sad. But that reason alone was why it was a hard one to make. I made my choice a year and a half ago and I have not regretted it since. Now we have a beautiful 17 month old who is happy and healthy and I get to see his accomplishments every day, all day. I could not ask for a better job. And surprise! I am pregnant with baby #2! This time we are having a girl. Baby #2 is due November 12. So back to the title of this blog. I have learned lots of things about babies, housekeeping, cooking and so forth. And I want to share it.

My agenda for blogging is simply an outlet for me to be creative and get my thoughts off my chest. I spend all day with a little boy talking gibberish and my mind is full of mickey mouse, trucks, books and blocks and sometimes I just need an outlet. My goal through this blog, is also to share any tips and tricks that I find useful around the house and possibly share some recipes that I have come up with or revised to make them kid friendly and so forth. I hope anyone who reads this blog enjoys it and in case no one reads it, then I am just glad that I have put my thoughts out of my head for now so I can go back to thinking Mickey Mouse, trucks, books and blocks. :) I will state my disclaimer. I am no expert on kids, cooking or being a good manager of this house, but what I have learned may help some out there and may not work at all for others. I do not think that what I know is right or best, its simply one way of doing something that can be done many, many ways. Now that I feel that I have set the stage for my upcoming blogs, I will post soon and I hope that many find this entertaning and fun! Peace out until next time...